So, I posted that I was divorced yesterday as soon as it was confirmed. I have the prize, as it were. Let me be the first to say that this was not my initial view. Divorce is sad, the ending of a union that two people felt moved to commit to. So how did I move from disbelief, through grief to a frenzied desire to have the “prize”? And is it a good thing? The mandatory one year separation period(North Carolina) is a ridiculous hurdle for couples to clear. I believe the majority of couples know in 3-6 months if they are going to work through their issues or not. I would go further to bet that at least one of the partners probably knows from day one what their true desire is. If the grieving process was longer than the legal process, would you see as many people, like myself, with the “prize” mentality at the close of the divorce? If there were fewer people so damn elated to close this chapter of their lives would it stem the tide of divorce statistics in this nation? If it closed with grief and sorrow, to be followed with a new healthy and happy outlook further down the road, would it look less appealing on its face??? I don’t have answers, just questions that need to be asked.